"Honor thy
father and thy mother: that thy
days may be long upon the land
which the Lord thy God giveth
thee."
We are living in
dark days on this question too.
It really seems as if the days
the apostle Paul wrote about are
upon us: "In the last days
perilous times shall come; for
men shall be lovers of their own
selves, covetous, boasters,
proud, blasphemers, disobedient
to parents, unthankful, unholy,
without natural affection,
despisers of those that are
good, . . . ." If Paul was alive
to-day, could he have described
the present state of affairs
more truly? There are perhaps
more men in this country that
are breaking the hearts of their
fathers and mothers, and
trampling on the law of God,
than in any other civilized
country in the world. How many
sons treat their parents with
contempt, and make light of
their entreaties? A young man
will have the kindest care from
parents; they will watch over
him, and care for all his wants;
and some bad companion will come
in and sweep him away from them
in a few weeks. How many young
ladies have married against
their parents' wishes, and have
gone off and made their own life
bitter! I never knew one case
that did not turn out badly.
They invariably bring ruin upon
themselves, unless they repent.
BEGIN IN THE HOME.
The first four commandments deal
with our relations to God. They
tell us how to worship and when
to worship; they forbid
irreverence and impiety in word
and act. Now God turns to our
relations with each other, and
isn't it significant that He
deals first with family life?
"God is going to show us our
duty to our neighbor. How does
He begin? Not by telling us how
kings ought to reign, or how
soldiers ought to fight, or how
merchants ought to conduct their
business, but how boys and girls
ought to behave at home."
We can see that if their home
life is all right, they are
almost sure to fulfil the law
both in regard to God and man.
Parents stand in the place of
God to their children in a great
many ways until the children
arrive at years of discretion.
If the children are true to
their parents, it will be easier
for them to be true to God. He
used the human relationship as a
symbol of our relationship to
Him both by creation and by
grace. God is our Father in
heaven. We are His offspring.
On the other hand, if they have
not learned to be obedient and
respectful at home, they are
likely to have little respect
for the law of the land. It is
all in the heart; and the heart
is prepared at home for good or
bad conduct outside. The tree
grows the way the twig is bent.
"Honor thy father and thy
mother." That word "honor" means
more than mere obedience--a
child may obey through fear. It
means love and affection,
gratitude, respect. We are told
that in the east the words
"father" and "mother" include
those who are "superiors in age,
wisdom and in civil or religious
station," so that when the Jews
were taught to honor their
father and mother it included
all who were placed over them in
these relations, as well as
their parents. Isn't there a
crying need for that same
feeling to-day? The lawlessness
of the present time is a natural
consequence of the growing
absence of a feeling of respect
for those in authority.
HONOR THY MOTHER.
It has been pointed out as
worthy of notice that this
commandment enjoins honor for
the mother, and yet in eastern
countries to the present day
woman is held of little account.
When I was in Palestine a few
years ago, the prettiest girl in
Jericho was sold by her father
in exchange for a donkey. In
many ancient nations, just as in
certain parts of heathendom
today, the parents are killed
off as soon as they become old
and feeble. Can't we see the
hand of God here, raising the
woman to her rightful position
of honor out of the degradation
into which she had been dragged
by heathenism?
"Honor thy father and thy mother
that thy days may be long upon
the land which the Lord thy God
giveth thee." I believe that we
must get back to the old truths.
You may make light of it, and
laugh at it, young man, but
remember that God has given this
commandment, and you cannot set
it aside. If we get back to this
law, we shall have power and
blessing.
TEMPORAL BLESSING OR CURSE.
I believe it to be literally
true that our temporal condition
depends on the way we act upon
this commandment. "Honor thy
father and mother, (which is the
first commandment with promise),
that it may be well with thee,
and that thou mayest live long
on the earth." "Honor thy father
and thy mother, as the Lord thy
God hath commanded thee; that
thy days may be prolonged, and
that it may go well with thee,
in the land which the Lord thy
God giveth thee." "Cursed is he
that setteth light by his father
or mother." "Whoso curseth his
father or mother, his lamp shall
be put out in obscure darkness."
It would be easy to multiply
texts from the Bible to prove
this truth. Experience teaches
the same thing. A good, loving
son generally turns out better
than a refractory son. Obedience
and respect at home prepare the
way for obedience to the
employer, and are joined with
other virtues that help toward a
prosperous career, crowned with
a ripe, honored old age.
Disobedience and disrespect for
parents are often the first
steps in the downward track.
Many a criminal has testified
that this is the point where he
first went astray. I have lived
over sixty years, and I have
learned one thing if I have
learned nothing else--that no
man or woman who dishonors
father or mother ever prospers.
Young man, young woman, how do
you treat your parents? Tell me
that, and I will tell you how
you are going to get on in life.
When I hear a young man speaking
contemptuously of his
grey-haired father or mother, I
say he has sunk very low indeed.
When I see a young man as polite
as any gentleman can be when he
is out in society, but who snaps
up his mother and speaks
unkindly to his father, I would
not give the snap of my finger
for his religion. If there is
any man or woman on earth that
ought to be treated kindly and
tenderly, it is that loving
mother or that loving father. If
they cannot have your regard
through life, what reward are
they to have for all their care
and anxiety? Think how they
loved you and provided for you
in your early days.
A MOTHER'S LOVE.
Let your mind go back to the
time when you were ill. Did your
mother neglect you? When a
neighbor came in and said, "Now,
mother, you go and lie down; you
have been up for a week; I will
take your place for a
night"--did she do it? No; and
if the poor worn body forced her
to it at last, she lay watching,
and if she heard your voice, she
was at your side directly,
anticipating all your wants,
wiping the perspiration away
from your brow. If you wanted
water, how soon you got it! She
would gladly have taken the
disease into her own body to
save you. Her love for you would
drive her to any lengths. No
matter to what depths of vice
and misery you have sunk, no
matter how profligate you have
grown, she has not turned you
out of her heart. Perhaps she
loves you all the more because
you are wayward. She would draw
you back by the bands of a love
that never dies.
FILIAL INGRATITUDE.
When I was in England, I read of
a man who professed to be a
Christian, who was brought
before the magistrate for not
supporting his aged father. He
had let him go to the workhouse.
My friends, I'd rather be
content with a crust of bread
and a drink of water than let my
father or mother go to the
workhouse. The idea of a
professing Christian doing such
a thing! God have mercy on such
a godless Christianity as that!
It is a withered up thing, and
the breath of heaven will drive
it away. Don't profess to love
God and do a thing like that.
A friend of mine told me of a
poor man who had sent his son to
school in the city. One day the
father was hauling some wood
into the city, perhaps to pay
his boy's bills. The young man
was walking down the street with
two of his school friends, all
dressed in the very height of
fashion. His father saw him, and
was so glad that he left his
wood, and went to the sidewalk
to speak to him. But the boy was
ashamed of his father, who had
on his old working clothes, and
spurned him, and said:
"I don't know you."
Will such a young man ever
amount to anything? Never!
I remember a very promising
young man whom I had in the
Sunday school in Chicago. His
father was a confirmed drunkard,
and his mother took in washing
to educate her four children.
This was her eldest son, and I
thought that he was going to
redeem the whole family. But one
day a thing happened that made
him go down in my estimation.
The boy was in the high school,
and was a very bright scholar.
One day he stood with his mother
at the cottage door--it was a
poor house, but she could not
pay for their schooling, and
feed and clothe her children,
and hire a very good house too,
out of her earnings. When they
were talking a young man from
the high school came up the
street, and this boy walked away
from his mother. Next day the
young man said:
"Who was that I saw you talking
to yesterday?"
"Oh, that was my washerwoman."
I said: "Poor fellow! He will
never amount to anything."
That was a good many years ago.
I have kept my eye on him. He
has gone down, down, down, and
now he is just a miserable
wreck. Of course he would go
down. Ashamed of his mother that
loved him and toiled for him,
and bore so much hardship for
him! I cannot tell you the
contempt I had for that one act.
Let us look at
A BRIGHTER PICTURE.
Some years ago I heard of a poor
woman who sent her boy to school
and college. When he was to
graduate, he wrote his mother to
come, but she sent back word
that she could not because her
only skirt had already been
turned once. She was so shabby
that she was afraid he would be
ashamed of her. He wrote back
that he didn't care how she was
dressed, and urged so strongly
that she went. He met her at the
station, and took her to a nice
place to stay. The day came for
his graduation, and he walked
down the broad aisle with that
poor mother dressed very
shabbily, and put her into one
of the best seats in the house.
To her great surprise he was the
valedictorian of the class, and
he carried everything before
him. He won a prize, and when it
was given to him, he stepped
down before the whole audience,
and kissed his mother, and said:
"Here, mother, here is the
prize. It is yours. I would not
have had it if it had not been
for you."
Thank God for such a man!
The one glimpse the Bible gives
us of thirty out of the
thirty-three years of Christ's
life on earth shows that He did
not come to destroy this fifth
commandment. The secret of all
those silent years is embodied
in that verse in Luke's
Gospel--"And He went down with
them and came to Nazareth, and
was subject to them." Did He not
set an example of true filial
love and care when in the midst
of the agonies of the cross He
mode provision for His mother?
Did He not condemn the miserable
evasions of this law by the
Pharisees of His own day:
"Well did Isaiah prophesy of you
hypocrites, as it is written,
This people honoreth me with
their lips, but their heart is
far from me. But in vain do they
worship me, teaching as their
doctrines the precepts of men. .
. . Full well do ye reject the
commandment of God, that ye may
keep your tradition. For Moses
said, Honor thy father and thy
mother; and, He that speaketh
evil of father or mother, let
him die the death; but ye say,
If a man shall say to his father
or his mother, That wherewith
thou mightest have been profited
by me, is Corban, (that is to
say, Given to God), ye no longer
suffer him to do aught for his
father or his mother: making
void the word of God by your
tradition, which ye have
delivered."
I have read of one heathen
custom in China, which would do
us credit in this so-called
Christian country. On every New
Year's morning each man and boy,
from the emperor to the lowest
peasant, is said to pay a visit
to his mother, carrying her a
present varying in value
according to his station in
life. He thanks her for all she
has done for him, and asks a
continuance of her favor another
year. Abraham Lincoln used to
say: "All I have I owe to my
mother."
I would rather die a hundred
deaths than have my children
grow up to treat me with scorn
and contempt. I would rather
have them honor me a thousand
times over than have the world
honor me. I would rather have
their esteem and favor than the
esteem of the whole world. And
any man who seeks the honor and
esteem of the world, and doesn't
treat his parents right, is sure
to be disappointed:
AN EXHORTATION.
Young man, if your parents are
still living treat them kindly.
Do all you can to make their
declining years sweet and happy.
Bear in mind that this is the
only commandment that you may
not always be able to obey. As
long as you live, you will be
able to serve God, to keep the
sabbath, to obey all the other
commandments, but the day comes
to most men when father and
mother die. What bitter feelings
you will have when the
opportunity has gone by, if you
fail to show them the respect
and love that is their due! How
long is it since you wrote to
your mother? Perhaps you have
not written home for months, or
it may be for years. How often I
get letters from mothers urging
me to try and influence their
sons!
Which would you rather be--a
Joseph or an Absalom? Joseph
wasn't satisfied until he had
brought his old father down into
Egypt. He was the greatest man
in Egypt, next to Pharaoh; he
was arrayed in the finest
garments; he had Pharaoh's ring
on his hand, and a gold chain
about his neck, and they cried
before him, "Bow the knee." Yet
when he heard Jacob was coming,
he hurried out to meet him. He
wasn't ashamed of the old man,
with his shepherds clothes. What
a contrast we see in Absalom.
That young man broke his
father's heart by his rebellion,
and the Jews are said to throw a
stone at Absalom's pillar to the
present day, whenever they pass
it, as a token of their horror
of Absalom's unnatural conduct.
Come, now, are you ready to be
weighed? If you have been
dishonoring your father and
mother, step into the scales and
see how quickly you will be
found wanting. See how quickly
you will strike the beam. I
don't know any man who is much
lighter than one who treats his
parents with contempt. Do you
disobey them just as much as you
dare? Do you try to deceive
them? Do you call them
old-fashioned, and sneer at
their advice? How do you treat
that venerable father and
praying mother?
You may be a professing
Christian, but I wouldn't give
much for your religion unless it
gets into your life and teaches
you how to live. I wouldn't give
a snap of my finger for a
religion that doesn't begin at
home and regulate your conduct
toward your parents.
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